So you think you’re just a known sperm donor and not a legal parent?  You may need to think again.

The state of Kansas has filed a claim against a known sperm donor who had actually signed an agreement with the intended parents that stated he would not be financially responsible for the resulting child.  However, in this case, the intended parents were a same-sex couple – and since Kansas doesn’t recognize same-sex relationships, only one of the two women is the legal mother of the children.

Unfortunately, the lesbian couple hit upon some hard times, and had to apply to the state for financial assistance for their family.  And so, in the eyes of the state of Kansas, who do you think they want to go after for child support?  That’s right – the biological father who thought the matter had been settled with the known sperm donor agreement he had signed with the lesbian couple.  To Kansas, he’s not only the biological father, but the legal father as well.

But this whole situation could easily have been avoided. Had the known sperm donor – and the lesbian couple – taken the time to review the state laws regarding known sperm donors, they would have discovered that home insemination in Kansas does not cut off the legal rights and responsibilities of a “donor dad”, but going through a fertility clinic and using a doctor to conduct the insemination would have. Had they followed the letter of the law and had medically-assisted insemination, he would not be considered a legal parent and the state would have had no grounds to go after the sperm donor for financial support.

The moral of this story is not that one should avoid the wonderful and fulfilling opportunity to become a known sperm donor – but rather, know the laws of your state before getting pregnant so you can make sure the legal outcome in terms of legal parentage is the result you want – and expect. We encourage you to review our legal page with state-by-state information on Family By Design as a starting point.

You can read a more detailed story about the Kansas case in the Huffington Post – the text of the article is below:

Kansas Sperm Donor For Lesbian Couple Faces Child

Support Suit From State

The Huffington Post  |  By John Celock Posted: 12/30/2012 1:16 pm EST  |  Updated: 12/30/2012 1:29 pm EST

Kansas Gov. Sam Brownback’s administration is seeking child support from a sperm donor to a lesbian couple.

Kansas state officials are seeking child support from the sperm donor to a lesbian couple in exchange for the state providing the child’s mother with financial aid.

The Kansas Department of Children and Families has filed a claim against William Marotta, a mechanic in Topeka, demanding child support for the 3-year-old daughter of Topeka residents Jennifer Schreiner and Angela Bauer, to whom he donated sperm in 2009, the Topeka Capital-Journal reported. Schreiner and Bauer had sought financial assistance from state welfare officials after Bauer stopped working due to illness and could not financially support Schreiner and their children.

According to the Capital-Journal, Schreiner and Bauer are no longer together but still co-parent their eight children. Because Schreiner is the 3-year-old’s sole parent under Kansas law, which does not recognize same-sex unions, the state cannot seek child support from Bauer.

“More and more gays and lesbians are adopting and reproducing, and this to me is a step backward,” Bauer told the Capital-Journal. “I think a lot of progressive movement is happening currently in the world as far as gays and lesbians go. Maybe this is Kansas’ stand against some of that.”

Bauer and Schreiner had signed an agreement with Marotta releasing him from all responsibility for the child. The state argues in court documents that because a doctor did not handle the artificial insemination as required by state law, the contract among the three is not valid.

Marotta is seeking to have the case dismissed. A state judge will hear arguments next month, The Kansas City Star reported. Marotta’s lawyer, Hannah Schroller, told the Star that her client believed he was a sperm donor and not a parent. Schroller also argued in court papers that the state’s interpretation of the artificial-insemination-by-doctor requirement fails to protect sperm donors because it would allow Kansas women to have sperm shipped to their home from a sperm bank and inseminate themselves with the intent of then demanding financial support from the donor.

A spokeswoman for the Department of Children and Families told the Star that she could not comment on the case.

Kansas Gov. Sam Brownback (R), who oversees the agency, has long opposed gay marriage, declaring during his 2008 presidential campaign that it would lead to more children being “born out of welock” and declining to answer questions about his position on gay adoption. In 2011, Brownback was criticized by the Kansas Equality Coalition for attending a Texas prayer rally staged by a group that has opposed gay rights.

In 2004, Kansas lawmakers passed a ban on same-sex marriage. Efforts to have the ban written into the state constitution have failed so far, but could be revived in next year’s legislative session.

At least one Democrat, Topeka Councilman Chad Manspeaker, has indicated his opposition to the state’s seeking child support from Marotta. On Saturday night, Manspeaker posted on Instagram a photo of an anti-gay sign in front of Westboro Baptist Church, the Topeka-based group known for its virulently anti-gay rhetoric, and wrote, “Right now Kansas’ Department of Children and Families looks a lot like this.” Brownback has opposed Westboro’s notorious picketing of funerals.

Brownback opponents, including state Senate President Steve Morris (R-Hugoton), a moderate Republican, have accused the governor and other conservatives of wanting to turn Kansas into an “ultraconservative utopia.”

“This is exactly our problem. People move away from our state because of things like this,” Manspeaker told HuffPost. “Our state becomes more of what Brownback wants it to be. It is the kind of thing that young people, like myself, my wife and our friends, that boggles our minds. It is a real shame.”